And We’re Off! Another Year of Opportunities and Challenges

As kids and teens settle into a new school year—with new schedules, routines, and friendships—parents are also adjusting. For those raising tweens and teens, this often means facing new conversations around vaping, alcohol, and cannabis (yes, I still catch myself saying “pot” too!).

Many parents feel unsure or underprepared to navigate these talks. Too often, schools assume “the drug talk” is happening at home, while parents assume it’s happening at school. The result? Teens are often left piecing together information from TikTok, social media, or peers.

Here are a few tips to help you get the conversation started:

1. It’s okay to feel scared or awkward

Naming your own feelings first is a powerful step. I often hear from parents who feel they can’t talk to their kids about drugs or alcohol because they themselves use alcohol or cannabis. The truth is—you can. Simply share your thought process: how your brain has developed, why you make the choices you do, and how you weigh risks and responsibilities. Teens appreciate honesty more than perfection.

2. Commit to a “No-Use” household policy—with empathy

This can sound confusing at first, but it doesn’t have to be. Be clear that drugs and alcohol are not permitted at home because your role as a parent is to keep your child safe—even from risks they may not fully understand, like how substances affect the developing brain. At the same time, communicate understanding and empathy: adolescence is a stage filled with curiosity and experimentation. Reinforce that they can come to you with questions or concerns without fear.

Create a plan for safety, too. Establish a safe word or code your teen can use if they ever need help getting out of an unsafe situation. When they use it, reassure them they are making the right choice—and follow through with your promise of no judgment and no consequences.

3. Get to know the friends and parents

This was easier back in the days of carpools and sideline chats at soccer games. As kids grow more independent, it takes more intention to know who they’re spending time with. Build community with other parents so expectations are clear across households. Inside your own family, create natural opportunities for connection: take walks together, bring back Sunday dinners, or find small rituals that keep the door open for conversation. In a world of constant busyness and screens, both teens and adults are craving connection more than we realize.

If you’re struggling with how to start these conversations or feel concerned about your teen’s behavior, I offer free consultations. Reach out anytime at christine@healingtogetherns.com.